Death & Dying / Question
Published: January 7, 2003
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Hey. Lately I have had problems with life and death. I don't know why I feel the way I do. I seem to have some kind of panic attack. It usually happens at night. I could be watching TV or driving home when it happens. I begin to think about death and wonder what is going to happen after I die. I realize there is no answer to that question. I start to think that I know what I am now but after I die I will no longer be me. I begin to think I'm nothing. I can't comprehend the feeling of nothing. It scares me and I begin to have these attacks. I shake all over. I feel cold and alone. I want to talk to someone but don't ever have the courage to talk to anyone. And usualy it doesn't do any good to talk about it because it makes me feel worse. I just have so many questions and I know there are no answers for and its really scary. Is this all life is, a short trip we live our lives and is over in a flash? Do we deserve to be punished with the sense of time and our memories and knowing that it will all be gone when we die? I don't know what to do about this panic thing. Do you know what my problem is? Signed: Questions about Death
Signed: Problems With Life & Death
Dear Problems With Life & Death,
Intrusive thoughts can trigger panic attacks (see Worry Too Much). It is not unusual for people to ponder such philosophical and spiritual questions such as the meaning of life and what happens after you die. When these thoughts start to interfere with daily living then you probably want to consider getting help. There may be some underlying issues contributing to the panic attacks or it may be a biochemical issue. In either case your symptoms can be treated with therapy and medication or a combination of both. There are many good medications that treat panic disorder that are safe and not habit forming. Learning relaxation techniques can also be very helpful. See I.M. Stressed for some ideas.
Sometimes changing the negative scripts that run through our heads can alter the way we feel about things. Instead of focusing on what will be lost, why not focus on what you have and try to enjoy it. In terms of the universe, a lifetime is an extremely brief period of time. But to a person, a lifetime is immeasurable.
If you live in northern New Jersey and would like help finding a therapist, you can call the Access Center From Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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