TeenHealthFX - Answers - Bullied And Afraid It Will Continue

Bullying And Teen Violence / Question
Published: July 24, 2002

Dear TeenHealthFX,

During my elementary/middle school, I have been severely bullied. My classmates make fun of me because of the way I look. I usually feel isolated and only find love from my parents. After years of harassment I became antisocial. I even skipped the award ceremony in my middle school!!! Also whenever I see my classmates after school I just try to escape from them. During the summer of 8th grade I went to an overweight summer camp. I had so many friends!!! So I know there is nothing wrong with my personality. Why do you think I have no friends at my middle school? Next year I will be going to a public high school with these classmates, I know they will continue to bully me?sigh

Signed: Bullied And Afraid It Will Continue

Dear Bullied And Afraid It Will Continue,

There is nothing wrong with you! The problem is with the bullies. Bullies see something in you that they want and cannot have. They pick on superficial things that are of no importance to the people who care for you. Unfortunately some people base friendship on popularity, which is based on looks and surface qualities. Most teens do not want to speak out against popular kids. Therefore it may seem like no one will befriend you but in truth they may be too scared to try.

It is important that you do not run or hide from the bullies. They will see that as them winning. Do not let them win. If you carry on with your life and ignore their comments you will win. They only want a reaction from you. By showing them that they cannot get to you, you are the bigger person.

High school is a new playing field. There are so many other people. There are many new friends to make and a chance for your true personality to shine. Make friends with everyone you meet. Join clubs/sports that you are interested in. You will find a network of people with similar interests who can help you adjust. Those bullies may be too scared in the new environment to bother you.

Start high school with a positive attitude and disregard the negative. Summer camp gave you a chance to be you without any restrictions. Try to capture that feeling again. Let people see you for who you really are.

Talk to your parents, a counselor or a trusted friend. They can help you sort out your feelings and feel more confident about starting school. Check out these web sites for more information www.bullying.org and www.antibullying.net.

Signed: TeenHealthFX