When Crushes Or Dating Gets Between Friends / Question
Published: February 5, 2003
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I have a friend who lies way too much and she does it straight to my face. How could I tell her, in a nice way, not to lie so much? I also broke up with this guy, and a few days later she GOES OUT WITH HIM!! She doesn't realize how much this has affected me, and how mad it makes me! Even if I don't like him at all anymore, she still went for him, which made me mad
Signed: Friend Lies Way Too Much
Dear Friend Lies Way Too Much,
The best thing for you to do is to talk to your friend about how you are feeling. Your friend may not be conscious of her lies and how they affect you. Give her a chance to express her side. You may learn where these lies come from. Be sure to let her know how it makes you feel.
Friends and ex-boyfriends dating can complicate friendships in every instance. If she does not know that you are mad about this guy it will ruin your friendship. If you hide these feelings they will manifest in other ways causing more rifts in your friendship. You need to let her know how you feel. She may have assumed that since you had no feelings for him that it was a fair opportunity to show her interest. Talking to her will make you feel better and clear the air between the two of you.
Friendships are constantly changing and reinventing themselves. Communication is the only thing that can make sure a friendship survives. Talk to your friend and let her know how you feel. Both of you may learn new things and ultimately grow from the experience.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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