When Crushes Or Dating Gets Between Friends / Question
Published: April 7, 2008
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I'm 17 years old. I have this friend, well had, but anyways when she started dating her boyfriend about 2 yrs ago, she has totally forgotten about our friendship. She never calls, chat, or comes see me It's like she has choosen her boyfriend over our friendship, what should I do? fight or forget about our friendship?
Signed: Fight For Or Forget About The Friendship?
Dear Fight For Or Forget About The Friendship?,
It is possible that your friend may not realize how much she has neglected the friendship. She may be so swept up in this new experience of dating and being in a serious relationship that she isn’t aware of how much she has ignored her friendships. If you have not done so already, FX suggests that you communicate your feelings to your friend. Let her know how much you have missed her and the friendship, and that you would like it is the two of you could spend some more time together or generally have some more contact via email or phone. Given the importance of the dating relationship and the friendship, you both may need to make some compromises about how much time you are able to spend together to make this work. But as long as you are both making an effort to respect where the other is coming from, the relationship is surely salvageable.
If you find after speaking with your friend that she wants to spend the majority of her time with her boyfriend and is not interested in maintaining any friendships right now, try not to take it personally, but instead see it as where your friend needs to be right now. You may feel sad and even angry at the loss of the friendship, but make sure that you do what you can to foster other relationships in your life in the event that this one does not work out in the way you had hoped.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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