TeenHealthFX - Answers - Two-Week Loser

Not Satisfied With Being Single / Question
Published: September 22, 2000

Dear TeenHealthFX,

I have gone out with two guys in my life. I went out with one twice and the other once. I still really like both. But I was wondering, all three times, I was dumped after two weeks. I'm afraid to get into another relationship because I'll get dumped. I think my personality is O.K., what can I do to stop this!

Signed: Two-Week Loser

Dear Two-Week Loser,

TeenHealthFX wants to start by saying that you are hardly a loser, but rather a teen going through some challenging times. Believe it or not, it is normal for teens to go through many little relationships before settling into a long term one. It is not easy being dumped, and it is hard to feel that it is your entire fault, or you have done something wrong. Teenage boys have a hard time thinking about relationships in the same way that teenage girls do, your views on life are very different right now.

You mentioned that you are afraid to get into another relationship for fear of being dumped. This fear may be rational, but not one to live by. You are still young and have plenty of time to have fun and see different guys. Try not to take each one so personally; it may be that you just do not have that much in common, or even that he does not feel like having a girlfriend at the moment. The only thing that you can do to stop this "dumping" is to be yourself. If a guy does not like you for being who you are, then you do not want to be in a relationship with him anyway.

The road may seem long, but as you move along in life it will change. As you and your guy friends mature, you will see your relationship begin to take a different path. It is good to stay positive with yourself and look around. Let yourself be in control for a while rather than those guys who have done the dumping. Show them that you are strong and know what you want. If you still feel scared about relationships, take a break and enjoy being a single female!

Signed: TeenHealthFX