TeenHealthFX - Answers - Anonymous S - Swallowed After Oral Sex

Oral & Anal Sex / Question
Published: April 24, 2002

Dear TeenHealthFX,

Hi, just 4 months ago I met a guy I liked. A month after we knew each other he asked me out. Now, it's been 3 months we've been going out. Yesterday there was oral intercourse going on (me on him). I swallowed "it" (not a lot but some) and now I'm freaking out cuz I never had before and like an hour later I coughed up some weird white little things that smelt weird. My throat is hurting today and I've got a little red thing on the back of my throat that looks like a tiny hickie. Can u please help me I'm scared? Thanks so much for helping me. I'm too afraid to ask my mom to bring me to the doctors cuz I'll feel like I'm over exaggerating. Please help me! Thanks so much for your time.

Signed: Anonymous S - Swallowed After Oral Sex

Dear Anonymous S - Swallowed After Oral Sex,

Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) can be spread by oral sex, but it is impossible to tell if these sores are sexually related unless you go to the doctor. There are teen health centers that offer confidential care meaning that you do not need your parent's permission for treatment. Many of these centers see teenagers at reduced or no cost. Since you are practicing oral sex, it's a good idea to seek medical advice for safer sex information and pregnancy prevention.

Here are some safer sex guidelines to use even with oral sex:

1. If you suspect that your partner has an STD, do not perform any sexual act until you and your partner discuss it between yourselves and with a doctor.

2. Safe Oral Sex performed on a male - Use a condom to avoid direct contact with skin and potential body fluids. Try not to have teeth scratch the condom. If this does happen, remove the condom and replace it with a new one.

3. Safe Oral Sex performed on a female - Use a dental dam to cover the vaginal area. When performing oral sex, keep the dental dam in place and make sure that it does not become torn or damaged. If this does happen, remove it and replace it with a new one.

4. If you are planning on having any type intercourse (vaginal or anal), use a latex condom. This not only prevents STDs, but also pregnancy.

5. Sex can be fun and exciting, but it can have serious consequences, including emotional, social, and physical effects. Be sure that both you and your partner are ready and believe it is right for you. You should certainly discuss it with your partner and a doctor first.

Your body can digest cum (from now on called vaginal fluids for a female and ejaculatory fluids for a male) just fine and if you are a female performing oral sex on a male, you will not become pregnant by swallowing ejaculatory fluids.

THE BIGGEST AND MOST IMPORTANT CONCERN WITH ORAL SEX AND SWALLOWING EITHER VAGINAL FLUIDS OR EJACULATORY FLUIDS IS SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES (STDs). If a person has an STD, they are very likely to transmit it to your mouth. This is an effective route of transmission for many STDs, such as Herpes 1 and 2, Human Papilloma Virus (HPV), Gonorrhea, and Chlamydia. Many times people who have STDs do not even know it; thereby, increasing your risk of getting an STD.

Do not rush into anything - Oral sex like any sexual activity needs to be discussed between you and your partner before the situation arises. Also, it is a good idea for you and your partner to see a doctor or go to a teen health center. A teen health center can see you confidentially (you do not need your parent's permission) and on a low cost or no cost basis. The teen health center staff can give you and your partner information on safer sex guidelines, STDs and birth control methods. If you live in Northern New Jersey, please call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at (973) 971.6475. If you live outside of Northern New Jersey, please look up your local Planned Parenthood.

After you and your partner have discussed and thought this through, remember to practice safer sex by using the guidelines given in Oral Sex Sores and What's Herpes.

Signed: TeenHealthFX