Sexual Readiness? / Question
Published: May 2, 2002
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I love giving my girlfriend oral sex, but I don't know if she really enjoys it because she is embarrassed to tell me what she likes. How do I know if she is really having an orgasm or even enjoying it?
Signed: Girlfriend Embarrassed To Tell What She Likes
Dear Girlfriend Embarrassed To Tell What She Likes,
Your question shows that you really do care about your girlfriend's feelings, and it is great that you would like to be sure you are pleasing her sexually. However, having sexual relations requires open communication between both partners. Have you asked your girlfriend what she does and doesn't like sexually? You can try speaking to your girlfriend about communicating what you enjoy during sex, by telling each other what feels good and what doesn't. If she seems a little withdrawn from the topic of sex and inhibited during any sexual activity, then perhaps she is not emotionally ready to be sexually active. You could discuss with her the feelings she might be having about it. If she still seems uncertain, then perhaps you both should refrain from any sexual activity that she may not be uncomfortable with until she is emotionally ready.
As noted in TeenHealthFX questions pertaining to sexual activity, please keep in mind when performing any type of sexual activity to practice safer sex.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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