Sexual Readiness? / Question
Published: January 6, 2004
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Hey THFX, my girlfriend is a virgin, but I am not, and I think she's ready to have sex with me. She said she wants to, but I'm not sure how I should ask her for it. She said she's happy to do it but is a little bit scared, but I completely respect her feelings and understand. I have been browsing this website for a while, and I think I have learned some valuable information, but I haven't quite found an answer! We love each other very much, but I just don't know how to get around to asking her. Please, can you suggest an appropriate action for me to take? I appreciate it, thanks.
Signed: How Should I Ask My GF For Sex?
Dear How Should I Ask My GF For Sex?,
It's hard for us to give you much advice besides this: just ask her! It sounds like you have already discussed it and you are both interested in doing it. We also think she will appreciate it if you bring the subject up for discussion at a moment when you are not being sexual, so she won't feel pressured if she's not quite ready at that particular moment. This will give you a chance to discuss it calmly rather than in the heat of passion, and to talk about how you plan to have safer sex.
It sounds like you are very understanding and care about your girlfriend a lot. When the time is right, you will find the right words. If you're having trouble asking, perhaps it means you're not quite ready yourself.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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