Sex Definitions / Question
Published: June 7, 2000
Dear TeenHealthFX,
How do I know if I am having an orgasm?
Signed: Clueless About Orgasms
Dear Clueless About Orgasms,
You are definitely not alone in your uncertainty. Both teenagers and adults commonly ask this question. However, it is impossible for me to tell you whether or not you have experienced an orgasm, but I can give you some understanding to what one may seem like.
To start with, an orgasm in technical terms is the release of built up tension, energy and engorgement of blood that occurs after sex has begun. There are said to be 4 phases of orgasmic response that must be completed in order to have an orgasm. The first is the arousal or excitement. Then, the plateau of that excited state. After you have experienced this excited feeling you will have the actual physical orgasm. Lastly, your body goes through the resolution stage, which is the falling back to a normal state. Only you will know when the actual orgasm has occurred. For more information on orgasms and what happens to the body and how it feels, see Wondering About An Orgasm.
It is important to stay in tune with your body's sensation and know what you are feeling. A sexually healthy adult is one who can appreciate one's body and takes responsibility for his/her behavior. Also, he/she should be able to communicate openly with a partner in a way that expresses both love and intimacy. This should be consistent with your own values and beliefs. If you do not feel that these are characteristics about how you are feeling in a relationship, then the sexual experience may not be right for you yet.
A healthy sexual relationship should be:
· consensual
· honest
· non-exploitative
· mutually pleasurable
· inclusive of protection against pregnancy and HIV and STD's
Enjoy the moment, but remember to be safe and honest with yourself and you will know when the experience has happened. If you are considering having sex, you should go to your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood before you decide to have sex. Teen health centers can provide you and your partner with information and materials for practicing safer sex against STD's and birth control. If you live in Northern New Jersey, please call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at (973) 971-5199. Teen health centers can see you at a reduced or no cost basis without your parent's permission and with complete confidentiality.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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