Pregnancy: I Know I'm Pregnant / Question
Published: February 19, 2003
Dear TeenHealthFX,
hi. i am 20 years old, and pregnant with my first child. i am in a very very tough situation. this is an explanation of the relationship me and the baby's father have. i met him at one of his concerts, we hung out afterwards, and ended up having sex. i went home the next day and he emailed me saying he has a child with this girl, and also he may have chlamydia..i was upset. i went to the dr, it turned out i didn't have chlamydia..i continued to see him afterwards, around a month of knowing him, he asked me to move into his moms with him, which sounded good to me- i was sick of my current situation at home..but then like 2 months after we started going out-he began to verbally abuse me, and he was always very jealous. then, we got our own apartment, and thats when things got really bad. he cheated on me with his 1st childs mother, and before that the fighting was getting real bad. he would hold me down, and just yell-for no reason, i felt trapped and thought with the love and support i was giving him-he would change..after all there was no one else that gave him love-his dad beat him growing up and his mom wasnt very supportive of him, favoring the 2 younger kids over him, constantly and crudley. so i felt bad, i did love him, and when everything was good, it was really good..but yeah, then he cheated on me in our apartment when i was visiting my family. i was in the process of moving out, i found out i was pregnant, i told him and we have been together ever since..i found out about it August 9, 2002. the baby is due in April. the ultrasound determining the sex is on tuesday november 26th, the thing is last night he hung out with his 1st childs mother again, also with her current boyfriend-but that was the same situation the first time he cheated. i havent heard from him in about 48 hours, and i am crushed. hes not going to work, and he is also planning on moving to Minnesota in June 2003-choosing his band over my child. i know that he is a loving person, he just needs help, but now i jsut dont know what to do, i
Signed: Pregnant And Don't Know What To Do
Dear Pregnant And Don't Know What To Do,
TeenHealthFX is concerned about you. Your first priority needs to be your health and safety and the health of your unborn child. Being in a situation where a partner disrespects you either verbally or physically is not healthy for you or your child. Once you decide that you are physically safe, and then you can deal with the other issues that you are concerned about. You seem to be a really caring person, so now it's time for you to care about yourself. Someone who cheats on you and plans on leaving you for a band is not acting like a loving person and it can really hurt your self-esteem. Try to remember that you can do something about this situation. It's really important for you to do a few things to ensure your health, safety, and that of your baby.
- Do you have a support system, like friends or family? Now would be a good time to call on them to help you. If you need someone to talk to, and you live in northern NJ, call the
- Getting proper medical care will increase your chances of having a healthy birth. If you live in northern
For additional resources regarding domestic violence and unhealthy relationships, call Jersey Battered Women's Service Hotline - (973) 267.4763 or for numbers nationwide, log onto the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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