Females: Pain/Burning During Or After Penetration / Question
Published: February 23, 2004
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Two days ago, My boyfriend and I were having sex. I am on ortho try cyclin, and we use condoms -every- time. We both realize the risk we take and we're each others first partners, having been together for more than two years now. We were experimenting, while having sex, and I tensed up definitely at the wrong time and his penis -rammed- either my cervix or my rectum or something. Anyway I could tell it was going to hurt and hurt it did! After about 5 minutes, all I could do was lay in fetal position on the bed, the pain came on gradually and ran from my pelvis to my stomach and made me feel nauseous. My boyfriend ran around frantically trying to help and after about 15-20 minutes it disappeared completely without a trace. He said that the way I described it sounded exactly like what it feels like to get kicked in the testicles. A very stomachy pain and nausea and such. Anyway, now I'm spotting just a bit. I also was late on my pill yesterday (after sex) and though I've never spotted because of missing pills before, I think maybe its this. I just want your take on this because I'm not sure who else to go to.
Signed: Experimenting - Penis Rammed Me & Had Extreme Pain
Dear Experimenting - Penis Rammed Me & Had Extreme Pain,
It would be impossible for TeenHealthFX to diagnose the cause of your spotting on the Internet. What you need to do is make an appointment with a doctor who can examine you and let you know for certain what is going on. You will feel much better once you do. Your spotting may be a result of taking your pill late or as a result of an injury sustained during sex.
TeenHealthFX is glad to hear that you and your boyfriend are making efforts to practice safer sex. As long as both partners are consenting, there is nothing wrong with experimenting with your sex life a little. But experimentation or not, sex isn't supposed to hurt, it is supposed to be pleasurable. Accidents do happen -- it certainly doesn't sound like your boyfriend was trying to hurt you. Nonetheless, since what happened was painful for you, you may want to slow it down a little and stay away from doing that same thing again. Last but not least, be sure to communicate how you are feeling to your partner. If you are scared that something is going to hurt or you feel uncomfortable with what you are doing at any time, he needs to respect your feelings and take it back to a level where you feel at ease again.
Again, as far as the spotting goes, TeenHealthFX strongly encourages you to be examined by a doctor. Your doctor will be able to evaluate the situation and let you know if any treatment is needed. If you don't have your own doctor and you live in Northern New Jersey you can contact the Adolescent Young Adult Center for Health at (973) 971.6475. Outside of this area you can go to a teen health clinic or local Planned Parenthood. They can see you without your parent's permission and on a low/no cost basis.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
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