TeenHealthFX - Answers - Bored With Sex Not Him

Sexuality & Sexual Health: Miscellaneous / Question
Published: September 23, 2003

Dear TeenHealthFX,

i had a boyfriend and we had a good relationship. we were having sex too but i broke up with him because i got bored. not of him but the sex. i enjoy having sex with guys i just met. as soon as its over i dont want to see them again. whats wrong with me?

Signed: Bored With Sex Not Him

Dear Bored With Sex Not Him,

TeenHealthFX cannot tell you what is wrong - but it is clear that something is wrong and we think it is a good sign that you recognize that what you are doing is not healthy for you, emotionally or physically.

Having sex with strangers can be dangerous - besides being at risk for acquiring a sexually transmitted disease (STD), you are also at risk for violence. Having sex without an intimate connection to the other person can also leave you feeling used and detached.

TeenHealthFX urges you to seek out counseling or therapy to help you discover why you are doing this and understand it so you can change your behavior. Until you get this behavior under control, we strongly recommend that you get a complete physical evaluation, be screened for STDs and practice safer sex

You can be seen at a teen health clinic without your parent's permission, confidentially and on a low/no cost basis. They often provide free condoms, and can help to educate you in making the best possible decisions regarding sex, birth control and STD protection. If you live in Northern New Jersey you can contact the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at (973) 973.971.6475. If you live outside of Northern New Jersey, please call your local Planned Parenthood.

You can find a therapist if you live in northern New Jersey by calling the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 973-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area.

Signed: TeenHealthFX