Sexuality & Sexual Health: Miscellaneous / Question
Published: February 18, 2008
Dear TeenHealthFX,
i have had a friend for about 4 1/2 years, of course he is a boy. we have never had sex before, my parents let his sleep over about one weekend a month, sometime more. but last night we were watching a movie, an old classic for us. i was laying on top of him. we both fell asleep. he woke me up at the end of the movie, he was horny. i didnt know what to say? he pulled my pants down and intercoursed me(i couldnt find the right word). it wasnt that i didnt want it. i was just suprised. and of course i wasnt planning this, so we didnt use a condom. i went to bed confused. and i had dreams of pregnancy. please help, sincerly Dazed and Confused.
Signed: Dazed and Confused About Having Sex With My Guy Friend
Dear Dazed and Confused About Having Sex With My Guy Friend,
If you do not get your period when you next expect it to come, FX recommends that you do meet with a healthcare professional to determine whether or not you are pregnant, and to speak about your options in the event that you are. If you are not pregnant and are planning on being sexually active again with this young man or with someone else in the near future, FX strongly suggests that you speak with a healthcare professional about the best birth control methods for you that will help to protect you against unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of STDs.
As for your relationship with this guy, FX recommends that the two of you have a discussion about what happened, what it means for your relationship, and where you want things to go from here – will you continue with your friendship and abstain from any more physical intimacy or would you like to pursue more of a romantic relationship with one another? You might also check in with one another if there are any thoughts or feelings that need to be discussed considering your friendship history and the fact that the two of you very unexpectedly ended up having sex.
Whether you remain friends or not, FX suggests that you and this guy discontinue your sleepovers with one another. If you choose to remain friends, it looks like the sleepovers put the two of you in a position to cross that friend boundary – so better to just avoid being put in that position in the first place. And even if you choose to date, it looks like these sleepovers, again, put the two of you in situations of physical intimacy that you are not prepared for as far as practicing safer sex and may not be prepared for in terms of emotional readiness.
If you don't have a doctor and live in northern
Signed: TeenHealthFX
While 93% of teenage women report that their first intercourse was voluntary, one-quarter of these young women report that it was unwanted. 
