Female Puberty Issues / Question
Published: December 14, 2001
Dear TeenHealthFX,
: Whenever I am around a guy that I have some feelings for I get a feeling that I want to make-out with him, but I don't know how to let them know, since a lot of people think that I am not "like that." But I AM! I love cuddling with guys and kissing, but I am just not the sex type. I am the type that will wait until marriage to have sex. And believe me, I am NOT going to have sex until a guy slips that ring on my finger! So what should I do? How can I let them know, without verbally telling them?
Signed: Wants To Cuddle
Dear Wants To Cuddle,
TeenHealthFX thinks that your decision to wait until marriage to have sex is just that: your own decision, and a really important one to have made. Yet, you want to get intimate with a guy - kissing and cuddling - without going all the way. Having these desires about a guy you like is completely normal!
You questioned not knowing how to let him know without telling him. Not everyone is great at picking up hints, and open communication is a very important of being physicially intimate with someone, no matter what the level of intimacy is - so TeenHealthFX recommends being honest and straightforward. Let him know what you're comfortable with and what you're not. You are the one who is in charge of your body, so be very clear. Don't let anyone pressure you into changing your mind or doing something you are not ready to do. If someone can't respect your choices, then they probably aren't a good choice for you.
Good luck!
Signed: TeenHealthFX
At least 50% of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives.
