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Raped One Month Ago And Then Had First Female Sexual Experience

Published: March 15, 2013
Dear Raped One Month Ago And Then Had First Female Sexual Experience,

I'm 21 and female and i was raped by a male about a month ago. I had been keeping it a secret and then i told another female. I dont' why this happened but after i told her a few days went by and I went to talk to her again and this is really confusing me....she started making out with me, and she touched my privates and gave me oral sex. i don't know why she did that. i feel disgusting like i should have said no. but i couldn't i don't know what was wrong with me. I tried talking to her about it and she said i seduced her, and that i probably had experience in the matter. (i had never been with a woman, but i had first been touched in that way and had received oral sex when by male acquaintances between the ages of 6 and 9). I don't know what to do. I feel like it's my fault because i didn't say no but part of me must have liked it right? i regret telling her. i think she completely misinterpreted it.


Dear Raped One Month Ago And Then Had First Female Sexual Experience,

TeenHealthFX thinks that it would be very helpful for you to speak to a mental health professional about these various sexual experiences and incidents that have occurred in your life. Between the rape, your experience with this female friend, and the sexual incidents that occurred when you were a child you could easily have feelings of anger, confusion, sadness, and fear. FX thinks that it is very important for you to have someone who can help you process your feelings and get a better understanding of how these experiences have affected you. FX also thinks it would be helpful for you to get some guidance on how to best deal with the person who raped you, as well as this female friend.

FX would also like to remind you that sexual experiences and incidents are not about “fault.” If you are a child who has been sexually abused or a teen or adult who has been raped, what happened is never the victim’s fault. And with something like what happened with this female friend, FX would not look at it like it is your fault either because this female friend also contributed to what occurred between the two of you – you can’t take full responsibility for what transpired between the two of you.

As you reach out for help, consider the following resources:

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