The first thing that TeenHealthFX is curious about is what made you want to break off the relationship? It sounds like you still have more-than-friend feelings for him, that he feels like a best friend and that you spend a great deal of time together. So we are wondering what wasn’t working for you about dating? One of the things FX wonders is if there was something feeling a little scary about getting so close to someone that made you want to break it off. When we date someone who means a lot to us, it can be very anxiety-provoking because of how much it will hurt if we were to lose that person. Some people are able to manage that anxiety and for others, the anxiety is so strong they stay out of close, dating relationships.
FX thinks this might be helpful to think about so that you can decide what it is that you actually want with this guy. If you see that you do want to be back in a relationship with him, then think about why you want to be in a relationship with him, why you broke up and whether or not you are really ready to be dating. If you feel you are ready, consider talking to this person about why you broke up with him and how you are feeling now. FX cannot know whether or not he will want to be back in the relationship, but you can decide if it’s worth the risk depending on how much he means to you.
If you or this person (or both of you) are not interested in dating one another right now, then you have to think about whether or not you can handle being friends with him. It is possible that right now it might be too hard for you and you might need some time apart for you to move on before you can be true friends and be okay hearing about his new dating experiences along with everything else.
If you feel like he is your only good friend, then FX recommends focusing on building some new relationships. To feel like we only have one person we like to spend time with, or can turn to if we need to lean on someone, can be a scary thing. If making close friends does feel difficult for you, consider speaking to a trusted adult about it such as a parent, extended family member, school counselor or even private therapist. And if you continue to have a hard time dealing with this current situation, FX recommends you reach out to a trusted adult about that, too, so you have the guidance and support you need.
If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.
15-24 year olds account for half of all new STD infections. 1
HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection. 2
"Transgender" is a term that includes the many ways that people's gener identities can be different from the sex they were assigned at birth. 3
Usually, puberty starts between ages 8 and 13 in girls and ages 9 and 15 in boys. 4
About 6-9% of children and adolescents have ADHD. 5
Tobacco smoking can lead to lung cancer, chronic bronchitis and emphysema. 6
Anorexia has the highest death rate of any mental disorder. 7
Studies show that people who eat breakfast do better in school, tend to eat less throughout the day, and are less likely to be overweight. 8
Young drivers (ages 16-20) are 17 times more likely to die in a crash when they have a blood alcohol concentration of .08% than when they have not been drinking. 9
Dating violence can take place in person or electronically, such as repeated texting or posting sexual pictures of a partner online. 10
Dehydration- not having enough fluids in your body- can cause headache, fatigue, crankiness and poor concentration. 11
National guidelines recommend that young people spend no more than two hours each day using electronic media for recreation. 12
A panic attack is a surge of intense fear and discomfort that usually peaks within ten minutes, but can last as long as several hours. 13
Suicide is the third leading cause of death among 15-24 year olds. 14
42.2% of female rape victims were first raped before age 18. 15
Pregnancy and birth are significant contributions to high school dropout rates among girls. 16
Females aged 15-19 continue to have higher rates of chlamydia and gonorrhea than any other age or sex group. 17
E-cigarettes are the most commonly used form of tobacco among youth in the United States. 18
More teens die from prescription drugs than heroin/cocaine combined. 19
Teens who consistently learn about the risks of drugs from their parents are up to 50% less likely to use drugs than those who don't. 20
20% of youth ages 13-18 live with a mental health condition. 21
Bipolar disorder is defined as a "brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels and the ability to carry out day-to-day tasks." 22
An obese child or teenager is one who weighs at least 20% more than their ideal body weight. 23
3 in 10 teen American girls will get pregnant at least once before age 20. 24
About 208,000 young people under 20 years of age have diagnosed diabetes. 25
Reversible methods of birth control include: intrauterine contraception, hormonal methods, barrier methods and fertility awareness-based methods. 26
Each day, nearly 3,000 kids under the age of 18 try their first cigarette and another 700 become regular, daily smokers. 27
Approximately 85% of people between the ages of 12 and 24 experience at least minor acne. 28
Most tobacco smokers begin smoking during adolescence. 29
90% of teens who are LGBT come out to their close friends. 30