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Never Want To Be Far From Mom

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,


Aim a 16 year old boy. I never want to be far from my mom. I know she will help and comfort me if anything goes wrong. I have friends in school but I never do anything outside of school with them. Never go to their houses or have them over or go out anywhere with them. I don’t really want my drivers license because I don’t really want to go anywhere without mom anyway. I think I may have a little OCD too. Aim a huge Harry Potter fan and my mom thinks it’s too big a part of my everyday life. It’s basically all I do. My dad is an alcoholic and never really there for me but mom is. I know that she will always be there for me and that’s why I don’t want to be away from her. Mom thinks maybe I need some counseling help to deal with my obsessions with Harry Potter and the fact that I don’t socialize with anyone outside of school. If mom would let me be home schooled I would.

Signed: Never Want To Be Far From Mom

Dear Never Want To Be Far From Mom,


TeenHealthFX thinks that your mom realizes that home schooling would further isolate you from your peers and the outside world. There is nothing wrong with being a “huge” Harry Potter fan but when you start substituting a fantasy world as a way of dealing with life then, it becomes a problem. Most people who isolate themselves like you have been doing, do so because they have previously experienced a serious anxiety or panic attack. The anxiety can be so severe that the fear of the panic attack happening again causes the person to avoid all situations that make them feel uncomfortable. As a result their world becomes a smaller and smaller place to the point that they never venture outside their home.


Since you feel comfortable with your mom you should also trust her judgment and seek out counseling. Your mom will always be a source of support for you but you need to venture out and expand your social horizons. A therapist will be able to help you learn to conquer your fears or obsessions so that you will be able to feel comfortable in all parts of your life.


To learn more check out the National Institute of Mental Health’s website on Anxiety Disorders. The site is also a helpful resource for finding treatment.


Signed: TeenHealthFX