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I Asked Him Why He Rejected Me

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,


There is this guy that I've liked for almost a year, I used to hug him at least once every day and I would sometimes talk to him. I really liked him and a bunch of his friends thought he liked me but he always said that he liked someone in his grade (he's a year older than me). I told him I liked him and we became closer friends. I kissed him on his cheek on his birthday and the following Friday I "asked him out". He rejected me because he said that if his parents found out he would get in trouble. It's been the whole summer break and I haven't talked to him so today I called him up. We talked on the phone for 40 minutes and before saying bye I asked him why he rejected me in the spring. He said that there wasn't much time in the school year, there was an age gap and that we were going to different high schools. After I told him that if he would like to try I would be open to that. I miss him so much and all I want to do is hug him again. Should I keep trying to see if we could work out a long distance relationship or should I just give up?



Signed: I Asked Him Why He Rejected Me

Dear I Asked Him Why He Rejected Me,


Why not just step back and let things unfold as they will. This boy seems to like you as a person and maybe it will remain a friendship and possibly it could turn into more. If you have made it clear to him how you feel and leave it at that. It also would be helpful if you did not look at this as an all or nothing situation. Saying he “rejected me” is a harsh way of looking at it and not really reflective of the situation. Someone who rejects you wouldn’t talk on the phone with you for 40 minutes. He is being upfront by telling you he is not available to be in a committed relationship with you. He is being honest and keeping the channel of friendship open as well. Even though it’s not what you want you have to respect him for that. Just look through our section on “Relationship,” and you’ll find out that not everyone is that considerate.




Signed: TeenHealthFX