TeenHealthFX is glad that this guy does not have any personal information on you in terms of where you live, go to school, or other ways in which to find or contact you. This is one of those examples of why it is so important to be careful about who you can meet online and the need to be cautious about how much personal information you put out there to people you don’t know very well. So good job on keeping your personal information private and reaching out for help now that you see this relationship has taken an unhealthy turn.
As for how to deal with this guy, FX recommends that you let him know that you are not comfortable being in contact with him anymore. Tell him that you worry that he is currently in an emotional space where he will get in such a bad mood or do self-destructive things simply from not talking to you, and that he seems to be overly possessive in terms of how he feels about your being with other people. Let him know that you do not want to be hurtful or rejecting, but that you think it is important that he reach out for help from trained professionals. You could pass onto him the resource information that we have listed below. Let him know that you would like there to be no further contact. Be clear that it is not your wish to be hurtful or rejecting, but that you think the most important thing for him right now is for him to focus on getting himself the help he needs.
If this guy chooses to be self-destructive or act out in any way because of your desire to cut contact, than you need to know that it is not your fault. He alone is responsible for his actions, emotions, and decisions – you cannot make him do anything or feel anything that he doesn’t already want to.
FX does think it is important that you tell your parents or another trusted adult about this situation. FX also recommends that you think carefully about whether there is any way he could track you down. Since you did send the picture of yourself – is there any identifying information in the picture (for example, a t-shirt with your school name) or anything that you had ever said to him that would give him an idea of who you are and where you are. Since this guy is obviously not operating in an emotionally healthy way, it is important that you take any necessary precautions to ensure your ongoing safety. So talk to a trusted adult right away about any further steps that may need to be taken with this situation.
To learn more about staying safe online, go to www.cyberangels.org.
15-24 year olds account for half of all new STD infections. 1
HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection. 2
"Transgender" is a term that includes the many ways that people's gener identities can be different from the sex they were assigned at birth. 3
Usually, puberty starts between ages 8 and 13 in girls and ages 9 and 15 in boys. 4
About 6-9% of children and adolescents have ADHD. 5
Tobacco smoking can lead to lung cancer, chronic bronchitis and emphysema. 6
Anorexia has the highest death rate of any mental disorder. 7
Studies show that people who eat breakfast do better in school, tend to eat less throughout the day, and are less likely to be overweight. 8
Young drivers (ages 16-20) are 17 times more likely to die in a crash when they have a blood alcohol concentration of .08% than when they have not been drinking. 9
Dating violence can take place in person or electronically, such as repeated texting or posting sexual pictures of a partner online. 10
Dehydration- not having enough fluids in your body- can cause headache, fatigue, crankiness and poor concentration. 11
National guidelines recommend that young people spend no more than two hours each day using electronic media for recreation. 12
A panic attack is a surge of intense fear and discomfort that usually peaks within ten minutes, but can last as long as several hours. 13
Suicide is the third leading cause of death among 15-24 year olds. 14
42.2% of female rape victims were first raped before age 18. 15
Pregnancy and birth are significant contributions to high school dropout rates among girls. 16
Females aged 15-19 continue to have higher rates of chlamydia and gonorrhea than any other age or sex group. 17
E-cigarettes are the most commonly used form of tobacco among youth in the United States. 18
More teens die from prescription drugs than heroin/cocaine combined. 19
Teens who consistently learn about the risks of drugs from their parents are up to 50% less likely to use drugs than those who don't. 20
20% of youth ages 13-18 live with a mental health condition. 21
Bipolar disorder is defined as a "brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels and the ability to carry out day-to-day tasks." 22
An obese child or teenager is one who weighs at least 20% more than their ideal body weight. 23
3 in 10 teen American girls will get pregnant at least once before age 20. 24
About 208,000 young people under 20 years of age have diagnosed diabetes. 25
Reversible methods of birth control include: intrauterine contraception, hormonal methods, barrier methods and fertility awareness-based methods. 26
Each day, nearly 3,000 kids under the age of 18 try their first cigarette and another 700 become regular, daily smokers. 27
Approximately 85% of people between the ages of 12 and 24 experience at least minor acne. 28
Most tobacco smokers begin smoking during adolescence. 29
90% of teens who are LGBT come out to their close friends. 30