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Measured For Bra - Normal To Feel Self-Conscious?

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Okay so I am a fourteen, small chested girl and needed new bras because I had outgrown my old ones. My mom took me into a store(Victoria's Secret) to look for new bras. The store lady asked if I had been measured lately and when I said no she proceeded to measure me in the middle of the store. I was very uncomfortable, even if she was just doing her job. I was just embarressed and wouldn't have been if she would've moved to the dressing room. Then after I tried it on she came to see if it fit correctly. I know she was doing her job,but was it normal to feel self-concious or embarressed??? Thanks
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Dear Measured For Bra - Normal To Feel Self-Conscious?,

 

A saleswoman’s job when it comes to these kinds of fittings certainly means being helpful to her customers in terms of providing proper measurements, but it should also include helping her customers to feel comfortable and at ease with the process. Many people might find it embarrassing to be measured for a correct bra size in the middle of the store with other people looking on – and FX thinks a teen could feel particularly self-conscious about this given that changing bodies, wearing bras, and all these other new things that come with puberty can put a teen in an awkward-feeling place at times. FX would hope that with all her customers, but particularly a teen, a saleswoman measuring for bra size would either go into the fitting room area for a measurement or use a little more discretion in terms of taking you off to the side in the store where it would not be so conspicuous to the other customers. 

FX does think it is normal for teens to feel self-conscious and embarrassed at times about bodily changes and lifestyle adjustments related to puberty. FX also thinks that it is perfectly acceptable for you to expect that a saleswoman helping you with a bra fitting would use some discretion and take the feelings and experience of a 14yo girl into account when deciding where and how to do a bra fitting. For the future, know that it is fine for you to let other people know when you are feeling uncomfortable. To say something like, “Can we go into the fitting room area or off to a more discrete section of the store for this measurement, please?” or “I would really feel more comfortable not being measured in such an open area of the store.” Any statement like this would be totally fine.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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