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Why Has It Been 45 Days Since My Last Period?

Published: June 30, 2017
Dear TeenHealthFX,
My bf and I have been messing around this past month. We have never had sex this month and he never ejaculated on my other than my hand. I usually make sure to be pretty good about not letting my hand touch down below until I have washed my hand and wiped it off. I am about 45 days since the end of my last period now. I dont have any symptoms but am nervous still. I usually have irregular cycles which can take 35 days and sometimes more. I came home from school soon after my last period so could that have an effect?
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Dear Why Has It Been 45 Days Since My Last Period?,

In order for pregnancy to occur, the sperm contained in ejaculatory fluids (and sometimes pre-ejaculatory fluids) need to come in contact with the vagina. If you have not had sex since your last period, and have not had any contact between ejaculatory fluids and your genital area, then TeenHealthFX cannot imagine how you could be pregnant.

It sounds like you have had had an irregular cycle, so it is very possible your cycle is a little more irregular than normal. Stress, changes in diet, changes in exercise and changes in environment can all contribute to changes in a menstrual cycle, so there could be lots of reasons why your period is late other than pregnancy.

Since your period is past due, you could always take a pregnancy test if it would help to put your mind at ease. Again, without having any kind of sexual contact that could result in pregnancy since your last period, FX cannot imagine you are pregnant. But if taking a pregnancy test to confirm that would be helpful to you and make you feel less worried, that is an option.

FX would recommend that you meet with your primary care physician, gynecologist or adolescent medicine specialist so you can find out why your period has been so irregular and get recommendations on options to regulate your period.  FX would also like to encourage you to speak to your doctor about safer sex precautions for the future. Doctors generally recommend that teens and young adults who choose to be sexually active use condoms each and every time they have sex to protect against unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of STDs, as well as a back-up method of birth control such as the pill or birth control shot. Your doctor can make the best recommendations for you and discuss with you how to use properly use birth control to maximize its effectiveness.

If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-5199 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. A Planned Parenthood health center is a good option if you have concerns about cost or confidentiality issues. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers.

FX also suggests that you and your boyfriend check out the links in our Resource of the Month: Planned Parenthood Resources on Safer Sex so that you can learn about sexual readiness, how pregnancy happens, pregnancy tests, emergency contraception, birth control, STDs and more. The more educated you are about these topics, the more likely you will make healthy decisions for yourself when it comes to your sexual health.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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