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Ok To Masturbate In The Room I Share With My Sister?

Published: June 05, 2013
Dear Ok To Masturbate In The Room I Share With My Sister?,

I'm 17 and I share a room with my 8 year old sister. I masturbate a few times a week at night in our room. She usually falls asleep within 10 minutes or so, so sometimes I'll just wait or if she puts on a movie or something, I'll go ahead. I'm pretty quiet about it and she never asks. We're very close and she doesn't know about masturbating, so if she noticed something I'm 99% sure that she would ask. But I'm kinda worried about how this will affect her. Or if she notices something and goes to our mom! Our mom is really anti-masturbation, so that might not end to well. But, is it okay for me to masturbate in the room with my sister?


Dear Ok To Masturbate In The Room I Share With My Sister?,

TeenHealthFX does not think it is a good idea to be masturbating in your room when your 8 year old sister is present. First and foremost, FX thinks it is important to have appropriate personal boundaries – and that means that you should only be masturbating when you are alone and in complete privacy. Second, your sister is too young to be exposed to this kind of sexualized behavior. And the fact is that you don’t know for sure that she would ask if she saw something. Sometimes children intuitively understand when they have witnessed something they think they should not have seen – so they end up keeping it to themselves. So you might not know if she has seen something, and if she has seen something and is keeping it to herself it might leave her feeling confused, upset, or uncomfortable.

Bottom line is that there are things that might be appropriate for a 17 year old that are not appropriate for an 8 year old, and there are things (including masturbating) that should simply remain private.

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