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Is Masturbating The Same Thing As Losing Your Virginity?

Published: October 14, 2013
Dear Is Masturbating The Same Thing As Losing Your Virginity?,
Hi, I have been curious about this for quite a while. Would you consider masterbating the same thing as losing your virginity?

Dear Is Masturbating The Same Thing As Losing Your Virginity?,

TeenHealthFX would not say that self-stimulation (masturbating) is the same thing as losing your virginity. Losing one’s virginity is usually equated with sex (most commonly meaning penetration of the penis into the vagina) and with two people being sexual with one another.

Planned Parenthood offers the following on the concept of Who’s a virgin, and who’s not? which might help clarify things for you:

Most people would say that a virgin is someone who's never had sex — and by "sex," they often mean penetration of the vagina by the penis. This dictionary definition sounds simple enough, but it leaves a whole bunch of people out of the picture.

There are a lot of straight people who don’t think of themselves as virgins because they’ve had lots of other kinds of sex, like oral sex and anal sex. And then there are all the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people who may never have penile-vaginal sex, but who hardly think of themselves as virgins.

Many people define sex in broader terms. For some, "sex" means vaginal, oral, or anal sex, while for others, it could mean mutual masturbation, manual stimulation (“hand job”), dry humping, or using sex toys to penetrate the vagina or anus. Lots of people feel that they "lose it" the first time they share an intimate sexual experience with someone else — not simply the first time penetration happens.

Some also believe that people have to give consent to lose their virginity — that virgins who are raped, for example, do not lose their virginity.

 

For more information on this topic, go to Planned Parenthood’s webpages on:

If you have any questions or concerns about this topic, you can also speak to your doctor. If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-5199 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers.

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