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My Phimosis is Still There

Published: July 01, 2014
Dear TeenHealthFX,

Hi TeenHealthFX I am in a very horrible state of fear and have questions regarding masturbation. I have read every answer on this website about masturbation but nothing cleared out all my fears. I am 15 and male, didn't start my sexual life. I'm going to go ahead and tell my story here: At 4-years old I developed Phimosis and got a medical intervention (not a circumcision/something that doesn’t require the use of scalpels or the like, I remember; something like just stretching the foreskin) but the Phimosis returned later, when I was about 7 years old. My parents took me to a doctor and I was extremely scared by him (since then I have a fear of doctors) and what he might do to my penis (even though nothing bad happened). My parents, seeing this fear, decided to let the Phimosis be. At about the age of 8-9 I masturbated for the first time, and this is what troubles me mostly, it seems like a small age to do that. At first it was unconsciously, I believe (and very rarely), because I cannot recall any sexual motivation, but I do remember the act (I actually used a pillow). At about the age of 12 I started doing it consciously and with sexual motivation, but also by just simply rubbing the head. At 13 I started doing it like normal people, simulating a vagina with my hand and at 14 I also started visiting porn sites sometimes. At the moment I masturbate aprox. one time a week but at 12 when I started doing it consciously I would do it even more times a day; what troubles me is that it only takes me 2-3 minutes to finish, 5 if I do it really slow and about 10 if I do it in the shower. My Phimosis is still there and I plan to cure it steroid creams. My questions: 1. Starting to masturbate this young affected my penis functions and will it make my sexual performance decrease? (bad ejaculations) 2. I have small yellow-ish dots on my penis (only visible when erect) that appeared 6-7 months ago; are they bad? 3. On the testicle side of the penis I have a big red line (I think it is an inflammation, but I am not sure) that is there since 4-5 months ago, but this one is visible even when not-erect. 4. Is it possible to visit an urologist or any other type of doctor alone, without my parents? (I am pretty shy when it comes to discussing these things with them) 5. Should I get help from someone that could examine my penis to make sure sexual performance will be OK?


Dear My Phimosis is Still There,

First we would like to define the problem for our other readers: 

Phimosis is a constriction of the opening of the foreskin so that it cannot be drawn back over the tip of the penis. This condition is a normal occurrence in the newborn boy, but over time, the skin that adheres to the tip of the penis can be retracted as the foreskin loosens. By age 17, 99 percent of males will be able to completely retract their foreskin. 

  • Phimosis can also occur if the foreskin is forced back before it’s ready. This can cause a fibrous scar to form, which may prevent future retraction of the foreskin.
  • Paraphimosis occurs when the foreskin is retracted behind the corona (or crown) of the penis and cannot be returned to the unretracted position. This can cause entrapment of the penis, impairing the drainage of blood, and may be serious.        Boston Children’s Hospital Website

You have many concerns over your condition that really can only be answered by a doctor who has performed an exam on you. Since many of your concerns are sexual in nature then it would be possible to visit a medical professional without your parent’s knowledge in the United States. We are not sure what the regulations are in other counties. However, TeenHealthFX would encourage you to bring your parents along. You don’t have to give them the details of the why you want to make an appointment, but given your history they will probably understand that it is a sensitive topic, especially now that you are older. You had mentioned that you had developed a “fear of doctors,” having a parent(s) along will go a long way to relieving your anxiety. 

Once the doctor completes the exam, he/she will be able to answer the medical aspects of your condition and let you know if any treatment is warranted. This would be a good time for you to ask any questions that you have about your sexual functioning. Sometimes just knowing the equipment is functioning properly can put a person at ease.  

If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health in Morristown 973-971-6475 or the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health in Summit at 908-522-5757 for an appointment. Outside this area contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood.

 

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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