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18yo Wants Me To Have Anal Sex With Him

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,
there is this 18 year old boy and he wants me to have anal sex with him but im scared to and i dnt know what to do
Signed: 18yo Wants Me To Have Anal Sex With Him

Dear 18yo Wants Me To Have Anal Sex With Him,

 

If you are scared to have anal sex with this person, then you are clearly not ready and you need to tell him so. If he asks you to have anal sex with him, you can say, “That is something I am not ready for and don’t want to do.” It is okay for you to be firm about it and it is important to stick to what you are saying if this is how you feel. If this person doesn’t understand where you are coming from, doesn’t respect your request, or gets angry with you in any way than that is his problem and is a poor reflection of him, not you.

You didn’t say how old you are, but if this is someone who is much older than you, is putting pressure on you to do this, or is threatening you in a way that is making you scared of him and what he might do, then you need to tell an adult immediately. You can tell a parent, extended family member, parent of a friend, teacher or counselor at school, or any other trusted adult who can give you some support and guidance with this, as well as provide you with any needed protection from this person.

Whoever it is or whatever is being requested of you, if you are not comfortable doing it remember that it is fine to say, “No, I’m not ready for that.” It is your body and you have every right to say “no” to sexual things you do not want to do. And if someone is ever putting pressure on you or saying or doing anything that frightens you, please tell a trusted adult right away. 

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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