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Birth Control Or Plan B Without Parents Knowing?

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Hello me and my girlfriend have recently started to have sex but with a condom because neither her or I want to have a baby at 15 but is it possible to get birth control without her family knowing they would loose there mind if they knew we were having sex or is there any way to get plan b without having to be 18?
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Dear Birth Control Or Plan B Without Parents Knowing?,

 

Before you continue with your sexual relationship with your girlfriend, FX would like the two of you to consider whether or not you are truly ready for sex. Especially if there is real concern about how her family would react if they found out she was having sex – if they discovered this, or if your girlfriend accidentally became pregnant or contracted an STD and required treatment for it – is it worth it to take those risks with what you might then have to deal with in terms of her family members’ reactions or it isn’t? Think about that, as well as the questions raised in Want To Have Sex, But Not Sure If I’m Ready – and discuss together whether being sexually active is truly a good idea for the two of you right now.

If you decide to continue to be sexually active, the use of condoms as well as a back-up method of birth control is generally the recommendation by medical professionals to help protect against unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of STDs.

As for condoms, obviously you can buy those at local grocery stores and drug stores. Prescription birth control pills can be given confidentially depending on the clinic you go to. Planned Parenthood clinics and many adolescent health clinics do provide confidential sexual health treatment to adolescents. FX recommends that you contact a local clinic to find out their policy on confidential sexual health treatment for teens.

The issue with clinic visits and the pill is that if your girlfriend were to submit her insurance to pay for her treatment and birth control, her parents could find out certain information from the insurance claims. Your girlfriend could call the insurance company and ask the specific things they will write on the claim in terms of how much information it will provide her parents. But to be totally safe, your girlfriend might want to consider paying for any doctor visits or pills herself (or you could split them if they are related to safer sex issues), so that no bills or insurance claims get sent home for her parents to see.

As for Plan B, in New Jersey no script is needed if you are 17 years old or older – you can just go to your local pharmacist and purchase Plan B. A prescription from a doctor is needed if you are under 17. You will need to present with ID to get Plan B from your pharmacist. In New Jersey it costs around $42. Again, you might want to pay for this out of pocket rather than trying to go through insurance if she doesn’t want her parents to know about it.

Keep in mind that the laws for Plan B do change, and there are different laws about it from state to state. Contact your local pharmacist, and he/she can give you the most up-to-date information on the Plan B pill for your state.

If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-6475 for an appointment or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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