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Do We Have To Use Condoms When Married?

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I am about to get married, both my girl friend and I are virgins. Doesn't that mean when we get married, we don't have to use condoms? By "virgins" I mean no intercourse of any sort, no oral or anal sex, nothing!
Signed: Do We Have To Use Condoms When Married?

Dear Do We Have To Use Condoms When Married?,

 

If you and your fiancé have never been sexually active in any way with each other or with anyone else (intercourse, anal sex, oral sex), then it is pretty safe to assume that neither one of you would have any STDs. As long as you both trust one another to be faithful in the relationship, protecting yourselves from the transmission of STDs is probably not something you would need to worry about when you become sexually active with one another after you are married.

What you will want to consider when it comes to birth control after you are married is protecting yourselves from any unwanted pregnancies. Some people may want to start their families soon after getting married, while some may want time together as a married couple before adding children into the mix. And others may not want children at all. If you and your fiancé are not ready to have children right away after you are married, then FX recommends that you and your fiancé speak to a doctor about the best birth control methods for the two of you. You may decide in speaking to your doctor that you want to use condoms to protect yourselves against unwanted pregnancies, but you and your fiancé may also decide you would rather have your fiancé use something like the birth control pill (which, when used consistently and correctly, is more effective than condoms in preventing unwanted pregnancies).

For more information about various methods of birth control, in addition to speaking to a medical health professional you can also read our answer to Updated Birth Control Information as well as Planned Parenthood’s webpage on Birth Control.

In addition, there are lots of things to consider when it comes to having children. If you and your fiancé would like to have children one day, FX recommends that the two of you read and consider some of the points presented in our answers to Trying to Have A Baby and The Cost Of Raising A Baby to help you decide when the best time is for you to start a family (if that is something the two of you even want).

If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-6475 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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