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Boyfriend Is A Virgin, So I Don't Want To Push Him Into Anything

Published: December 02, 2013
Dear Boyfriend Is A Virgin, So I Don't Want To Push Him Into Anything,
Ok, so my boyfriend is a virgin but I'm not. We've been going out for almost 3 months but we've known eachother for 2and a half years now. I'm getting a little anxious. I really care abou. t him and i don't want to rush him into anything he's not ready for. He's been hinting at sexual things but i have to restrain myself cause i don't want to rush. Should i keep holding back or give in to my urges?

Dear Boyfriend Is A Virgin, So I Don't Want To Push Him Into Anything,

TeenHealthFX doesn’t think whether or not you become sexually active with your boyfriend is something you should be deciding all on your own, but rather a joint decision made by you and your boyfriend after discussing it.

There are many considerations when it comes to becoming sexually active with someone – emotional readiness, how that fits with religious beliefs or morals, readiness to practice safer sex or to deal with a situation where there is an unwanted pregnancy or an STD has been transmitted. That said, FX thinks it would be helpful for you and boyfriend to read the articles listed below on sexual readiness and then have a discussion on what works best for each of you. If one or both of you are not able to talk about this with the other, then FX would say that one or both of you are not yet ready to be sexually active with one another and best to wait.

 

If you decide to become sexually active, please speak to your doctor about the best ways to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of STDs. The general recommendation is for the use of condoms as well as a back-up method of birth control such as the pill or birth control shot. But your doctor will be able to make the best recommendation for you as far as practicing safer sex.

If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-5199 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers.

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