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Terrified of Sex

Published: June 01, 2015
Dear TeenHealthFX,

hi, i am 21 and i'm a virgin. i Have had like 2 serious boyfriends and couldn't have sex with them because i'm terrified of having sex.And they both broke up probably for the same reason(although none of them said that). i always say that i am not ready for sex. but its a lame reason. i'm terrified of it.i mean i cant even watch porn without cringing a lil bit. i donno what to do. i CANT help it.


Dear Terrified of Sex,

Saying you’re not read for sex, is not a “lame reason.” If the thought of sex frightens you that much, then it is important to find out why. Whether you make the decision to be sexually active or not, it would be helpful for your mind to be at ease, when making contemplating what to do. 

It is hard to say why you are so uncomfortable with the thought of sexual activity, because there are many plausible explanations. That’s why it would be important for you to deal with your concerns with a therapist. Identifying the possible contributing sources of the fear as well as learning coping mechanisms to deal with the underlying anxiety will help relieve the stress you are feeling over the issue. 

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area.

 

 

 

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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