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I Think I'm A Lesbian, But I'm Afraid To Tell Family And Friends

Published: November 06, 2013
Dear I Think I'm A Lesbian, But I'm Afraid To Tell Family And Friends,
I'm 13 years old and think I'm a lesbian. I really want to tell someone this, but I'm scared of the reaction I'll get from my family and I've actually heard my friends talk against gays and lesbians. What should I do?

Dear I Think I'm A Lesbian, But I'm Afraid To Tell Family And Friends,

TeenHealthFX thinks that it would be helpful for you to have someone you can talk to about how to deal with your family members and friends about this. It would be helpful for you to be able to describe your parents and friends to someone who can help you to determine how much of a problem there might be for you in sharing this information about yourself in terms of any potential negative reactions. It does happen that some friends and family might react to the news with surprise and might need some time to adjust to what you have told them. However, if there is any concern that friends or family members will react in a significantly negative way, it is important to have some guidance and support in dealing with that.

FX recommends you reach out to a trusted adult who can provide you with guidance and support in how to deal with this situation. You could speak to a school counselor, your family doctor, or ask your parents to schedule a consultation for you with a private therapist. Just check with anyone you speak to in terms of their policies on confidentiality. But the most important thing here is for you not to feel alone with this.

For more information, FX also recommends you read our Hot Topic Coming Out To Parents – When Is The Time Right & How To Do It and Planned Parenthood’s article Coming Out. These articles will give you guidance on how to tell people in your life and also gives you some resource information as well.  

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.

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