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How To Tell My Parents

Published: August 01, 2015
Dear TeenHealthFX,

I'm gay and I recently got a boyfriend, When my parents find out that I’m gay they will make me go see my priest. I live in very catholic family.

 


Dear How To Tell My Parents,

Try to find a time where everyone seems calm and interruptions are not likely to occur – and just tell them. It may be a lot for them to take in all at once. Once they can process what you shared, hopefully they will be able to have an open honest conversation with you. Sometimes it can be a process that takes time. That is okay as long as it forward progress. If you are really worried about how you will deal with your parents’ reactions to your news, you might want to think about figuring a few things out on your own before speaking with them. 

In terms of disclosing your sexual orientation to your parents, since you state that you are worried that you will be judged by your family all the time, you might want to consider discussing these concerns with a therapist or with any friends who are gay and have already been in your shoes. That way, you can figure out how you want to deal with your feelings about telling them, as well as the most comfortable ways in which you can address any negative reactions your family may have. 

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. 

If could use some support contact the Gay and Lesbian National Hotline at 1-888-THE-GLNH (366-8288), 24hours, 7 days a week or the Gays and Lesbian Teens hotline at 1-800-850-8078, 24 hours, 7days a week (a crisis hotline for gay, lesbian and questioning youth, ages 25 and younger).There are also other great programs in our links section

 

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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