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Would This Be Harassment

Published: November 01, 2013
Dear TeenHealthFX,

If I accidentally touched part of another girl's chest extremely briefly as I was jokingly pushing her away, would this be harassment? Should I tell my girlfriend? I feel like I did something horrible when the girl didn't even notice enough to say anything about it because I fear that maybe my sub conscious wanted me to do that for sexual reasons even though I didn't actually think that out. Note: I am very obsessive compulsive in cases like this.


Dear Would This Be Harassment,

People who commit crimes of a sexual nature do it for their own sexual gratification and usually only show remorse when they are caught. Your question is a bit tricky because you are bringing unconscious motivation into the equation. It sounds like this thought came to you after pondering the incident for a significant amount of time and concluded in significant feelings of guilt.

We are in constant motion in life and for all of us there is a distinct possibility that we could unintentionally touch someone in an inappropriate manner. What makes it an accident is that it was not done for personal sexual gratification and an immediate apology is followed by the contact. If this is an isolated incident for you, then you should lighten up on yourself and put the situation into proper perspective. If this seems to be happening on a regular basis, then this brings your motives into question and you should probably seek out therapy.  

As far as telling your girlfriend, that is up to you. She is not going to condemn you if it was an accident.

 

 

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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