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Anxiety About Finding And Meeting With A Gynecologist

Published: December 29, 2014
Dear Anxiety About Finding And Meeting With A Gynecologist,

I'm 21 and have only ever gone to my pediatrician. I know that I should probably see a gynecologist for my next physical, but I'm nervous. I hate going to the doctors to begin with and the idea of going to a new doctor who is going to see and touch so much of my body makes me anxious. I have been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and I can feel the anxiousness just thinking about going to a doctor. Is that something that I should tell the doctor about? I don't even know how to go about finding a gynecologist to go to or what I would tell them to make an appointment.


Dear Anxiety About Finding And Meeting With A Gynecologist,

Scheduling an appointment with a gynecologist would be a good idea at your age. According to the KidsHealth article, Your Daughter’s First Gynecology Visit:

“The American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology (ACOG) recommends that young women have their first visit with an obstetrician-gynecologist (OB/GYN) between the ages of 13 and 15.

For most teens, the first visit will include an external examination of the genitals but not an internal examination of the reproductive organs, which is recommended beginning at age 21 for healthy women. However, if your daughter has abnormal vaginal bleeding, painful periods, unusual vaginal secretions, or other problems that may be associated with her reproductive health, she may need a pelvic exam sooner.”

Given that you deal with an anxiety disorder and can already feel yourself getting anxious about an appointment with a gynecologist, TeenHealthFX recommends the following:

  • Educate yourself about the importance of gyn appointments and what will specifically go on at these appointments. You can get this information in the article, Your Daughter’s First Gynecology Visit.

  • Find a reputable gynecologist. You can ask your primary care physician for a referral, get a list of in-network providers from your insurance company, or check with family members and friends to see if anyone has a gynecologist she would recommend to you. Once you have the name of a gynecologist in your area, contact the office and let them know you would like to schedule your first annual well-visit. The office staff will most likely take down some information about you when you call (i.e., your name, address, phone number, insurance) and then find a day/time that is convenient for you to come in.

  • When you meet with your gynecologist for the first time, let him/her know that you have been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder and that you are nervous about your appointment. The gynecologist can then take that into account in how he/she proceeds with the appointment.

  • If you are in therapy to work on issues related to the anxiety disorder, discuss with your therapist ways in which to minimize your anxiety about the appointment. If you are not in any treatment, FX recommends you consider meeting with a therapist and having a consultation with a psychiatrist to see if you would benefit from anti-anxiety medication if you feel you are having trouble managing your anxiety in general.

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.

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