Is It Normal to be Afraid of my Ex-Boyfriend?
Published: December 23, 2021
Dear TeenHealthFX,
Is it normal for me to have a delayed reaction to my ex boyfriends attitude toward me? I broke up with him around seven months ago, and we tried to be friends, but it didn't work out. He was very manipulative, he would try to put me in situations I would be alone with him, which I wasn't comfortable with, and he has even threatened me. Recently I haven't spoken to him, and I needed to get a no contact against him because he wouldn't leave me alone. That should have been the end of it, and everything should be fine, but truthfully I am terrified of him now. I feel like this is a delayed reaction, and I shouldn't feel this way. Is it normal to be afraid of him? Is it normal to miss him, even though I have a panic attack every time I see him? I feel like such a disaster and I hate every second of it. I just want it to be over.
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Dear Is It Normal to be Afraid of my Ex-Boyfriend?,
TeenHealthFX is sorry to hear about what you are going through. A healthy relationship would never make you feel manipulated, afraif to be alone with that person, or make you feel the way you do. It is extremely important to talk to a parent, school counselor or trusted adult about what you are going through. It is clear that your feelings are valid and there is no right or wrong way to feel. However, since you mention that he has threatened you in the past and you feel terrified, it may be necessary to contact law enforcement to make sure you are safe. Please know that there is no shame in asking for help and you do not need to handle this on your own.
If at any point you feel you are in danger immediately call 911.
Signed: TeenHealthFX
