Friend Told Me She is Going to Kill Herself

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,


I have a friend that just told me she was going to kill herself because of me. No matter what I say she won't talk to me and she says as soon as she turns 17 (in a few days) She will kill herself. If she goes through with this, I don't know how I would be able to live myself. What do I do to get her to stop even though she will NOT talk to me? Signed, What do I do!?

Signed: Friend Told Me She is Going to Kill Herself

Dear Friend Told Me She is Going to Kill Herself,


TeenHealthFX implores you not to try and handle this situation by yourself. Having your friend threaten suicide because of you is bound to cause you a great deal of anxiety and stress. Combine that with the helplessness you must feel and you have yourself one extraordinarily difficult situation. The worst thing you could do is to keep this information to yourself. Whether it is a parent, school counselor, or teacher you need to share what your friend has told you.


You might be scared how your friend might react if she finds out you took action on her suicide threat, but really what choice has she left you. Your friend needs help and if she is expressing that she wants to kill herself then she needs to be seen by a mental health professional right away. Which ever adult you confide in can take the necessary steps to alert this girl’s parents as to what is going on with their daughter. This will put them in a position to be able to get their daughter whatever help she needs.


TeenHealthFX realizes that this probably is not an easy task for you to do but it is the best course of action to take for your friend’s sake and for your sake as well. She may not realize it but she is lucky to have you as a friend.

Signed: TeenHealthFX