Feeling Stuck Dealing With My Eating Disorder, Sexual Abuse and Lack Of Support From My Parents
TeenHealthFX is glad to hear that you are in therapy, however, we are concerned about your therapist’s level of training and expertise given the issues you are currently struggling with if you feel that he/she doesn’t know a great deal about eating disorders or sexual abuse. It may be a big part of the reason why you are feeling so stuck. FX thinks that therapy with a reputable, experienced therapist could help you with the following:
- Deal with the feelings and nightmares connected with the sexual abuse you dealt with.
- Find healthier ways of coping so that you do not resort to self-cutting or get to a place of having suicidal thoughts.
- Help you deal with your relationship with your parents. It sounds like there is a lot you need from them right now that you are not getting. A therapist could help determine whether family therapy might help to change this, or whether the focus needs to be on helping you to deal with the feelings you have that they are not there for you in the way you would like.
- Help you look at the underlying feelings driving your behaviors connected with the eating disorder.
Given how much you are dealing with right now, FX thinks it is very important for you to be working with a well-trained, seasoned therapist who has a great deal of experience with the kinds of issues you are dealing with. You could discuss your concerns with your current therapist and see if he/she has any referral recommendations for you. You could also speak to a school counselor or your doctor for referral recommendations for a reputable clinical psychologist or clinical social worker.
Consider the following resources as well as you look for a therapist more qualified to address the issues you are dealing with:
- You can also contact the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN), 1-800-656-HOPE (4673), 24 hours, 7days a week for help and information. You can search for a local counseling center on their website or use their online hotline.
- If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.
If you get to the point that you are seriously considering suicide or are afraid of your impulses then you need to seek help immediately. You can call 911 or go to your nearest hospital emergency room. In northern New Jersey you can also call the crisis hotline from Morristown Memorial hospital at 973-540-0100. Outside this area call the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433), available 24 hours a day, or the Suicide & Crisis Hotline, 1-800-999-9999, 24 hours, 7 days a week.