I Have Very Poor Self Esteem

Published: May 20, 2013
Dear I Have Very Poor Self Esteem,

I have very poor self esteem.I absolutely hate being black I think I'm fat but people say I'm skinny.there is a girl I am extremely jealous of she is so pretty has beautiful hair and she is super super skinny.I have developed an eating disorder just to be skinny like her.also no one has ever said I'm beautiful so it's causes me to think I'm ugly.I am running out of options this is my last hope

Dear I Have Very Poor Self Esteem,

TeenHealthFX can appreciate how difficult things must be feeling for you right now. It sounds like it is hard for you to look at who you are and feel good about what you see – and that can be a sad and frustrating place to be.

FX is concerned about how you are feeling about yourself and that you have developed an eating disorder as a result, putting your emotional, social, and physical health at risk. We think it is very important for you to meet with a reputable mental health professional, such as a clinical social worker or clinical psychologist, who has experience working with teens and working with people with eating disorders. It is important for you to address the negative self-beliefs you have and to work through the possible pain you may have that you have never felt beautiful to anyone so that you can get to a place where you see yourself in a loving way and treat yourself as such.

FX understands that seeking out help may feel difficult or even scary. But with the right therapist (someone who you experience as warm and non-judgmental) we feel you can make great progress with the issues you are dealing with right now. If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.

If you live in New Jersey, you can also contact the Eating Disorders Program at Atlantic Health at 908-522-5757 for more information and to set up an evaluation. Outside of New Jersey you can contact the National Eating Disorders Association at 1-800-931-2237 for more information and referral services.