Want to Improve Low Self Esteem

Published: May 11, 2015
Dear Want to Improve Low Self Esteem,

I have low self-esteem. What can I do to feel better about myself?

Dear Want to Improve Low Self Esteem,

According to Dosomething.org, “Low self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which an individual views him/herself as inadequate, unlovable, and/or incompetent. Once formed, this negative view permeates every thought, producing faulty assumptions and ongoing self-defeating behavior.”

That said, if you have low self-esteem, it can be helpful in many ways for you to find ways to feel better about yourself.

The Mayo Clinic has identified 4 steps to a healthier self-esteem (which you can read in more detail on their website):

  • Identify troubling conditions or situations (essentially this means understanding triggers that could deflate how you feel about yourself)

  • Become aware of thoughts and beliefs (what you tell yourself about the situations you are in or about various aspects of who you are as a person)

  • Challenge negative or inaccurate thinking

  • Adjust your thoughts and beliefs

It would be helpful to incorporate these four steps into your life. If the negative thoughts and feelings you have about yourself continue to be problematic, it would also be helpful to speak to a reputable mental health professional who can provide you with the support and guidance you need to work through this issue.

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.