i feel like i have a lot of friends AT SCHOOL. and AT DANCE. but i would never hang out with them out of school. I feel like i do not have fun when i HANG OUT out of school with people and I feel like There is something wrong with me. I like hanging with people when I am forced to like for dance competitions, but I feel like I dont have those people I can just text and hang out with. IS it bad? I just donât care enough to hang ut with anyone but when i DO I HAVE FUN.
TeenHealthFx would like to begin by saying there is nothing “wrong” with you. Fx understands it can be hard to start new friendships. People often feel shy or insecure about having a conversation with a stranger. This feeling is totally normal. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there.
You mentioned that when you spend time with your friends from dance, you have fun. Fx wonders, do you feel that you have more in common with your dance friends? Sharing a common interest is often the basis of most friendships.
The hardest part of making new friends is often in the beginning stages. At times, it can be awkward and uncomfortable. Fx has a few recommendations to make the process easier for you.
Try challenging yourself by starting up a conversation with a new person at school. Introduce yourself and then ask them a question. This can be a great way to “break the ice.” Conversation could be as simple as saying “hey I like your sneakers, where’d you get them?” It is generally pretty easy for people to talk about themselves, by taking an interest in them you may find common interests you both share. Be patience with yourself, often this process can take some time. Eventually you will get to the point of feeling comfortable, from there you could ask if they would like to hang out.
Remember, it's never too late to build new friendships. Investing time in making friends and strengthening your friendships can pay off for years to come.
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33% of adolescents in America are victim to sexual, physical, verbal, or emotional dating abuse. 18
Nearly two in five 12th graders report using some kind of vaping device in the past year. 7
1 in 4 teens contract a sexually transmitted disease every year. 11
In 2017, persons aged 15–24 years represented 62.6% of all chlamydia cases. 10
More than 130 Americans die everyday from an opioid overdose. 9
In the next 24 hours, 1,439 teens will attempt suicide. 14
In the next 24 hours, 2,795 teenage girls will become pregnant 12
Only 50.6% of U.S. youth aged 6-17 with a mental health disorder received treatment in the last year. 8
90% of daily tobacco users begin by age 18 13
Many teens reported feeling overwhelmed (31%) and depressed or sad (30%) as a result of stress. 16
37.3 percent of 12th graders reported vaping in the past 12 months 15
Two-thirds of those who developed alcohol or substance use disorders have had a mental health disorder. 17
At least 80% of sexually active people will have an HPV infection at some point in their lifetime 20
In 2016, 56 percent of deaths among passenger vehicle occupants ages 16-19 were drivers 22
21% of all new HIV diagnoses in the U.S. are among people aged 13-24 years old, most of those being 20-24. 19
59% of all students in grades 9 to 12 indicated that they had not yet had sex. 21
1 in 3 young people will be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship 23
50% of young people who experience rape or physical or sexual abuse will attempt to commit suicide 24
There was a 78% increase in e-cigarette use between 2017 and 2018. 2
1 in 6 U.S. youth aged 6-17 experience a mental health disorder each year. 1
Suicide is the second leading cause of death for youth ages 12-18. 3
Young people aged 15–24 years acquire half of all new STDs 4
In 2017, 5455 teenagers died from an overdose 5
44.88% of teens feel stressed “all the time.” 25
59% of U.S. teens have personally experienced at least one type of abusive online behaviors. 26
In 2017 2,734 teenagers (ages 13-19) died in the United States from crash injuries. 27
Roughly 40% of teenagers will try drugs at least once, which means 60% will not. 28
The average 12th grader spends approximately 2 hours per day texting. 29