Relationships

My Mom Always Checks My Phone. How Can I Get Her to Trust Me?

Published: April 10, 2020

Dear TeenhealthFX,

my mom always checks my phone and reads all my texts how can I get her to trust me

Signed: My Mom Always Checks My Phone. How Can I Get Her To Trust Me?

Dear My Mom Always Checks My Phone. How Can I Get Her To Trust Me?,

We understand how frustrating it can be to feel like your parents do not trust you. We recommend having an open and honest conversation with your mom to help her understand how you feel. It is always a good idea to start off by asking her why she checks your texts and to see where she is coming from. This way it starts it off as a mature conversation rather than you are coming off as confronting your mom in a defensive way.

Depending on your age, it may be possible that she feels worried about what your friends or people are sending you. Many teens do not realize that things some things teens say to each other are hurtful, or even bullying. In addition, due to all the social apps teens use, it is possible your mom wants to make sure you aren’t talking to strangers and giving out your personal information. When using social apps and messaging people, it is always important to be safe and not provide any information to anyone you do not know.

Signed: TeenhealthFX

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Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death in the US among people aged 10-14 ¹

Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death in the US among people aged 15-24 ²

51% of youth (6-17) get treatment each year for a mental health condition ³

15.6 teenage girls for every 1,000 will give birth to a baby before they are 20 years old. ⁴

Only 6% of high school students get tested for STDs ⁵

1/3 of high school students who were currently sexually active used effective hormonal birth control the last time they had sex with an opposite-sex partner ⁶

Nearly 30% of female students currently drank alcohol and nearly 20% currently used marijuana.⁷

2.14 million middle and high school students currently vape ⁸

Over 80% of women and men both report having experienced their first rape under the age of 25. ⁹

Almost 40% of high school students have reported using marijuana at least once. ¹⁰

83.88% of 12- to 17-year-olds have reported using marijuana within the last month. ¹¹

One in four women first experienced intimate partner violence before the age of 18. ¹²

5.9 million teens have reported to drink at least once in the past month. ¹³

In 2022, there were 1,573 motor-vehicle deaths from underage drinks ¹⁴

About 1 in 10 children live in a home with a parent who has a drinking problem ¹⁵

Only 65 percent of teens consistently wear seat belts when driving or as a passenger. ¹⁶

The risk of motor vehicle crashes is higher among 16- to 19-year-olds than any other age group. ¹⁷

49% of the youth report having less than 3 friends in 2022 ¹⁸

^{2.7 million youth report experiencing severe major depression}¹⁹

Over 3.3 million teens will be graduating from high school in the year 2023-2024 ²⁰

The average social media screen time for teens is 7 hours and 22 minutes per day ²¹