It’s often so hard when we are unsure about a situation. Do you bring it up and make an issue and then it turns out to be nothing? Or do you say nothing and let these feelings fester? It is a hard position to be in.
Have you tried speaking with a close friend or family member who knows the situation with your boyfriend? Sometimes talking with someone who has an outsider’s perspective can make you see different sides of the story.
Also go with your true feelings about the situation. Ask yourself this question first. Do you trust your boyfriend? If you answered no, then maybe you should look at your relationship as a whole. Why don’t you trust him? What has he done that made you not trust him? Often times you will find when the trust is gone from a relationship, it can be hard to repair.
If you do trust your boyfriend, then maybe you could start a conversation by saying to him something like I understand your concern about your ex but I just want to make sure there are no unresolved feelings there? It is often easier to write down what you want to say and how you would react given his response. It’s always a good idea to keep calm and express your thoughts clearly so your boyfriend understands you are coming from a place of concern. Your boyfriend should be receptive to you and your feelings and concerns about the situation. If he brushes you off or says something like “you’re crazy” there may be cause for concern.
While there may never be a perfect answer to all this, you and your personal happiness are what’s most important here. Do not ever put your feeling aside to make someone else happy.
70% of youth in juvenile justice systems have at least one mental health condition 6
33% of adolescents in America are victim to sexual, physical, verbal, or emotional dating abuse. 18
Nearly two in five 12th graders report using some kind of vaping device in the past year. 7
1 in 4 teens contract a sexually transmitted disease every year. 11
In 2017, persons aged 15–24 years represented 62.6% of all chlamydia cases. 10
More than 130 Americans die everyday from an opioid overdose. 9
In the next 24 hours, 1,439 teens will attempt suicide. 14
In the next 24 hours, 2,795 teenage girls will become pregnant 12
Only 50.6% of U.S. youth aged 6-17 with a mental health disorder received treatment in the last year. 8
90% of daily tobacco users begin by age 18 13
Many teens reported feeling overwhelmed (31%) and depressed or sad (30%) as a result of stress. 16
37.3 percent of 12th graders reported vaping in the past 12 months 15
Two-thirds of those who developed alcohol or substance use disorders have had a mental health disorder. 17
At least 80% of sexually active people will have an HPV infection at some point in their lifetime 20
In 2016, 56 percent of deaths among passenger vehicle occupants ages 16-19 were drivers 22
21% of all new HIV diagnoses in the U.S. are among people aged 13-24 years old, most of those being 20-24. 19
59% of all students in grades 9 to 12 indicated that they had not yet had sex. 21
1 in 3 young people will be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship 23
50% of young people who experience rape or physical or sexual abuse will attempt to commit suicide 24
There was a 78% increase in e-cigarette use between 2017 and 2018. 2
1 in 6 U.S. youth aged 6-17 experience a mental health disorder each year. 1
Suicide is the second leading cause of death for youth ages 12-18. 3
Young people aged 15–24 years acquire half of all new STDs 4
In 2017, 5455 teenagers died from an overdose 5
44.88% of teens feel stressed “all the time.” 25
59% of U.S. teens have personally experienced at least one type of abusive online behaviors. 26
In 2017 2,734 teenagers (ages 13-19) died in the United States from crash injuries. 27
Roughly 40% of teenagers will try drugs at least once, which means 60% will not. 28
The average 12th grader spends approximately 2 hours per day texting. 29