17 And Scared I'm Pregnant

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,
im 17 and am scared im pregnant. my boyfriend and i were messing around and had dry sex, he didnt cum but there was pre-cum. i didnt think id gotten any of it on me but i guess there is a small possibility some couldve. i was ovulating at the time according to my periods. i had my period about two weeks after that but it was preceded with weird pressure cramps in my lower abdomen. during my period i had nausea and was unable to eat that much and lost about 8 pounds because of it. by the time my period was over my nausea went away but the pressure cramps stayed along with the bloated feeling, and i still have a slight loss of appetite. i pee a lot more but not that much comes out and im also constipated. ive also been having some back aches. ive taken about 5 pregnancy tests and theyve all been negative. i dont know if this is just stress or an infection of some sort, but i dont know what to do to make this feeling go away. slowly its been getting better and it almost completely dissapears at night. please help, if i am pregnant id have to do something about it. my whole life is ahead of me.
Signed: 17 And Scared I'm Pregnant

Dear 17 And Scared I'm Pregnant,

 

When you add up the nature of your sexual contact, the fact that you did get your period after having this kind of sexual contact with your boyfriend, and the five negative pregnancy tests, it is highly unlikely that you are pregnant.

There are two more likely reasons other than pregnancy for the symptoms you are experiencing: The first is this is a kind of mind-body connection situation. The stress, anxiety, and fear about the possibility of being pregnant may have actually contributed to your experiencing these physical symptoms. The second is that there is some other underlying medical issue present that requires medical attention.

FX strongly recommends that you meet with a doctor as soon as possible for the following reasons:

·         A doctor can confirm the results of your pregnancy tests so that you know you’re not pregnant to put your mind at ease.

·         A doctor can determine if there is any other medical issue going on that is causing your symptoms in the event that you do need some kind of medical treatment.

·         A doctor can provide you with detailed education about how you can and can’t get pregnant, as well as safer sex options so that you are much less likely to be in this kind of worried position in the future. A doctor can also educate you about emergency birth control in the event you ever have unprotected sex or your birth control method fails.

FX also thinks it would be helpful for you to think about where you are in terms of sexual readiness. The use of condoms with a back-up method of birth control such as the pill can be extremely effective in preventing pregnancy and the transmission of STDs, but the only 100% sure way to do this is abstinence. If the idea of pregnancy is so scary to you, maybe it would be better to put some limits on how intimate you are willing to get with your boyfriend so you don’t have to worry.

 

Some resources in case you need them now or in the future:

·         If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-6475 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers.

·         If you need to find a free pregnancy testing center, you can call 866-942-6466. If this is an unplanned pregnancy, you can call 1-800-672-2296. And if you are pregnant, but have no medical insurance, you can call 1-800-450-0183.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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