Pregnant, How Do I Talk to my Doctor?

Published: November 07, 2017
Dear TeenHealthFX,
okay i have seen a lot of these and im trying not to make it sound like another one. but. i am pregnant. its early first trimester and here's my problem. im okay with the doctors examining me. my questions is how do i tell the doctor that i don't want to be pregnant anymore? are they going to ask me to leave? am i going to get arrested? are they going to freak out? i am TERRIFIED of going because i don't know if i should tell them how i feel because i'm afraid of an ignorant fearful reaction. but doesn't that mean my questions is ignorant and fearful too? because honestly. i know this is my fault. and i don't know if i have any choice in the matter.
Signed: Pregnant, How Do I Talk to my Doctor?

Dear Pregnant, How Do I Talk to my Doctor?,

TeenHealthFX understands the stress you are feeling and is glad that you are reaching out for help.  

FX highly encourages you to seek medical help as soon as possible. TeenHealth understands that the thought of visiting your doctor is overwhelming, however reminds you that you will not be scolded  during your visit. Your doctor is there as a resource for you to live your healthiest and safest life.  

A Planned Parenthood health center is a good option if you have concerns about cost or confidentiality issues. Professional staff can counsel and work with you to make the best decision regarding your pregnancy.  Planned Parenthood has a no judgement policy. Prior to your visit, you can also chat with a health educator to learn more about your pregnancy options.   

In addition to Planned Parenthood, if you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-5199 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist or contact your local teen health center. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers. 

If you choose to continue to be sexually active, TeenHealthFX highly encourages you to speak to your doctor about which birth control method is best for you during your visit. FX also suggests that you check out the links in our Resource of the Month: Planned Parenthood Resources on Safer Sex so that you can learn about sexual readiness, how pregnancy happens, pregnancy tests, emergency contraception, birth control, STDs and more. The more educated you are about these topics, the more likely you will make healthy decisions for yourself when it comes to your sexual health. 

You mentioned that you feel being pregnant is your fault. It is important to not blame yourself, and remember that resources exist to help you through this time. TeenHealthFX encourages you to speak with a trusted adult. He/she can refer you to a professional therapist.  

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area. 

 

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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