Got Raped And Found Out I Was Pregnant

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I Got Raped A Week Ago And I Found Out I Was Pregnant,I Took Loads Of Pregnancy Tests And Went To See My Doctor And It Was All Positive, I Am Thinking About Having An Abortion,But Is It The Wrong Thing To Do? I Mean Im Only 15 And Won`t Be Able To Cope. I Wanna Try And Get Through This On My Own.It Dosnt Help When I Am Wanting To Be A Size Zero And Nearly On That Size. Can You Help
Signed: Got Raped And Found Out I Was Pregnant

Dear Got Raped And Found Out I Was Pregnant,

 

TeenHealthFX is concerned about you between being raped and now being in the position of having to deal with an unwanted pregnancy. So we want you to think about the following things in terms of what you decide to do from here:

 

Dealing With Unwanted Pregnancies:

There are many reasons why women may find themselves dealing with an unwanted pregnancy – such as having been raped, misusing or having problems with birth control, or lack of education about birth control and safer sex practices. When a woman finds out that she is pregnant, she has three choices of what to do – she can raise the baby, have an abortion, or give the baby up for adoption. FX does not believe that there is one right answer for every person – but rather that each woman must thing about what choice is the right one for her considering the many different factors involved in carrying a baby for nine months and raising a child.

 

There are a lot of considerations when thinking about bringing a baby into this world. Especially for a teenager, who typically does not have the physical, emotional, of financial resources to more easily deal with the responsibilities of parenthood. In trying to decide how ready you are to be a parent right now, take some time to answer the questions listed under the FX question/answer “My Boyfriend Wants A Baby, But I’m Not Ready” under the Pregnancy section of the Sexuality and Sexual Health category of the website. In addition to the questions listed there, FX also thinks you should consider how you will feel raising a child who is a product of rape. Many women can find this to be a difficult thing to do because the baby is a constant reminder of a very terrible experience – so this should be another consideration for you in what you want to do here. In addition to thinking about these various questions, FX does think that you should discuss your thoughts and feelings about the choices you have with a healthcare professional to get support and guidance in what decision is best for you. And if, after reading through these questions and discussing your concerns with a healthcare professional, you decide that having an abortion is the right decision for you and where you are right now in your life – FX certainly thinks that it is okay for you to be at peace with your decision.

 

Coping With Having Been Raped:

FX thinks that it is very important for you to meet with a counselor trained in working with victims of sexual assault so that you can deal with any issues that have come up for you regarding the rape. Women who have been raped can end up blaming themselves for what happened, feeling fearful or untrusting of others, having difficulty forming close emotional or physical relationships with others following the rape, or experiencing changes in mood or behavior as a consequence of being raped. So it is important that you have support and guidance in dealing with these types of issues as well.

 

Don’t Go It Alone:

Finally, FX would like to make the point that when dealing with issues of rape and unwanted pregnancies it is important that you NOT deal with all of this on your own. These are emotionally trying issues to be dealing with and it is critical that you feel you have knowledgeable and caring people who you can turn to for help with all of this. Whether it is deciding on what to do with the pregnancy, going through an abortion, dealing with having been raped, or even any self-image issues you may be going through since you mentioned wanting to be a size 0 – having love, guidance and support is very important.

 

 

If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-6475 for an appointment or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. You can also contact Girl’s Street – A Young Woman’s Health Program – at 908.522.2555.

 

If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 973-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area.

 

You can also contact the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAIN), 1-800-656-HOPE (4673), 24 hours, 7days a week.

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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