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Am I Bisexual?

Published: December 13, 2017
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I think I'm bi sexual? Lately I find myself attracted to girls. I think, hey she is pretty, or hey I wouldn't mind being sexual with her... Things like that. I've had two of my same sex female friends like me and I have not reciprocated any of their feelings. I think all of my friends are pretty and I love them - just as a bestie though. What I'm trying to say is, am I bi sexual if I would date others of the same sex, however am not interested in most of my friends? Thanks!
Signed: Am I Bisexual?

Dear Am I Bisexual?,

Someone who identifies as bisexual is "emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to more than one sex, gender or gender identity though not necessarily simultaneously, in the same way or to the same degree." 

It is normal to be unsure of your sexual orientation. It is unknown for certain what determines a person’s sexual orientation. While some people report knowing from a young age what their sexual orientation is, others take years to identify. It is important to remember:

  • You do not need to have sex to determine your sexual orientation. 
  • Discovering your sexual orientation is a personal journey; no two people will have the exact same experience.  

 

TeenHealthFX cannot determine your sexual orientation. Only you can know who you are and what feels right and true to you. However, FX would like to emphasize that the individual you choose to be romantic with should always make you feel safe and respected, no matter their gender.  

TeenHealthFX recommends that all sexually active teenagers use condoms every time they have sexual intercourse. Condoms are the only form of birth control that protect from sexually transmitted infections, and should be used in addition to another form of birth control for best protection.    

If you are having difficulties coping with issues around sexual orientation or identity, are having difficulties in your relationships with family members and/or peers because of sexual orientation and/or sexual identity issues, or notice that your emotional well-being is suffering any way because of these issues, consider speaking with your school counselor and/or a private therapist for guidance and support with these issues.  If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.  

TeenHealthFX suggests checking out the following resources:

Signed: TeenHealthFX

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