I Had Sex With a Girl Who Might Have an STD

TeenHealthFX cannot know the chances of your having transmitted an STD since we do not know if this girl definitely has an STD, what STD she has if she does have one, or why you think she may have one. Did someone tell you they thought she had one or you saw signs of an STD, such as bumps that could be genital warts?

Given that FX cannot know for sure whether or not an STD was transmitted, and you are uncertain about her status, it is best for you to check in with a medical professional about this. For information about STD testing, read the Planned Parenthood information, Get Tested, which includes information on how testing works and where to get tested.

FX is going to assume that you are not in a relationship with this girl since it doesn’t sound like you can talk to her about this or ask her STD status. FX would like you to be aware that your chances of transmitting an STD do go up when you are having sex outside of a monogamous relationship, with multiple partners, and with people where you do not have the kind of relationship with where you can ask their status and feel confident you are getting an honest answer from them about it. FX would also like you to consider what it might mean for you if someone you are not involved with were to get pregnant. What if she wanted to keep the baby? What would that mean for you?  

For general information on STDs, you can read the Planned Parenthood information on What Do I Need to Know About STDs? which will give you information on prevention, transmission, signs and symptoms and more.

TeenHealthFX would also like to encourage you to speak to your doctor about safer sex precautions for the future. Doctors generally recommend that teens and young adults who choose to be sexually active use condoms each and every time they have sex to protect against unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of STDs, as well as a back-up method of birth control such as the pill or birth control shot. Your doctor can make the best recommendations for you and discuss with you how to use properly use birth control to maximize its effectiveness.

If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-5199 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. A Planned Parenthood health center is a good option if you have concerns about cost or confidentiality issues. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers.

FX also suggests that you check out the links in our Resource of the Month: Planned Parenthood Resources on Safer Sex so that you can learn about sexual readiness, how pregnancy happens, pregnancy tests, emergency contraception, birth control, STDs and more. The more educated you are about these topics, the more likely you will make healthy decisions for yourself when it comes to your sexual health.