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Should I Ask Her to Shower With Me?

Published: May 14, 2012
Dear TeenHealthFX,
I'm a 17 year old male and I have a girlfriend. We have been dating for about a month and I want to take a shower with her for fun. I trust her and I'm honest to her. We cuddled a few times and havn't asked to have a shower with me yet. Should I ask her to take a shower with me? or should wait a little longer? thanks
Signed: Should I Ask Her to Shower With Me?

Dear Should I Ask Her to Shower With Me?,


Taking a shower with someone you have a romantic relationship with can be a sensual experience but it is also a very intimate one. You have only been dating this girl a month and it is a big leap to go from cuddling to showering together. Making this request might seem odd to your girlfriend since it can come off as seeming totally random and she is bound to question your motives. Speaking of motives, you may want to ponder why taking a shower is so appealing to you. If your hope is that it could lead to sexual activity then you need to be honest about your expectations with your girlfriend. Even if you don’t intend on it leading to sexual activity you have to admit being naked with the person of your affection could lead to a compromising situation. Also what are your thoughts about what will happen in the shower? Is about just bathing each other or is there something else you had in mind? You need to think through the situation before you even consider posing the question. By doing this you will be able to be completely honest about your intentions.


TeenHealthFX thinks a month is a short time and showering together is a big progression from cuddling. Why not wait and get to know your girlfriend better before you ask. A huge part of an intimate relationship is about being able to communicate with one another about everything including sex. The better the communication the more trust you will have in the relationship. Once you get to this point you and your girlfriend will be much more at ease if the issue of showering together comes up.

Signed: TeenHealthFX