Does My Mom Not Care About Me?
Published: August 31, 2024
Dear TeenHealth FX,
I am 4 months away from being 18. I have a boyfriend of 1 year whom I am sexually active with. My mother kind of walked in on us and wasn?t particularly mad at us, but said she doesn?t want us doing it in the house and said we should instead do it in the car someplace else. Does she want us to sneak around? Does she want to be questioning where I am? Does she want us to be approached by the police and given a citation? Shouldn?t a parent?s responsibility just be to make sure that we are protected? Should she be telling us where to go? How do I go about talking to her about this? How do I explain that what she is saying is actually not good parenting but in fact makes us sneak around and lie about where or what we are doing while being respectful? Is it really any of her business where we are doing it? Isn?t is my house just as much as it is hers? I know I don?t pay for it but i was not the one who decided to have children. My boyfriend and I are not being obnoxious about it, or doing it on the dining room table. Were doing it in a room, on a bed that she has never slept on and will probably never sleep on. Why doesn?t she care so much about it when we are doing it in a space she does not enter or use often at all?
Signed: Does My Mom Not Care About Me?
Dear Does My Mom Not Care About Me?,
TeenHealth FX understands your confusion and senses your frustration. TeenHealth FX strongly encourages you to take a deep breath, write down your thoughts, and talk through this with your mom. It may be a complete misunderstanding and talking things through will allow both of you to see the situation differently / from each other's point of view.
If you are not comfortable talking about this with your mom, then try speaking with a trusted adult that can see both sides. TeenHealth FX wants to encourage everyone to understand that having a conversation can fix a lot of issues, but it is best to have a conversation when both parties are calm and can hear each other out.
Teenhealth FX does want to remind you that during every sexual encounter wearing a condom is extremely important to prevent pregnancy and STDs (sexually transmitted diseases). As well as being careful with having sex in public places because that can lead to trouble with police.
Signed: TeenHealth FX
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