I Feel Alone And Don't Have People In My Life To Talk To
Dear Teen Health Fx, I feel alone often and I don't have any people in my life to talk to about my family issues or feelings. Anytime I try to talk to a family member about this they say I'm being "dramatic" and wanting attention because of this I've found myself more alone than ever and feeling worse. Advice please? Sincerely, Quiet
Having people available to us for support and with a listening ear is incredibly important. TeenHealthFX can imagine how hard it has been for you if you do not feel you have had this in your life. And we can imagine that it has lead you to withdraw from others because in being told you are being “dramatic” or just seeking out attention, you may have formed a negative association with the idea of reaching out to people or come to believe others aren’t interested in being there for you.
FX recommends the following:
Talk to your parents about scheduling a consultation with a reputable mental health professional, such as a clinical social worker or clinical psychologist, so you have a safe, private place to go with any situations or emotions you are struggling with. A therapist can provide you with the support and guidance you need. A therapist can also assess what might help improve the relationships between you and your parents so they can become a stronger source of support for you in the future. If your parents are reluctant to schedule a consultation, speak to your doctor, a school counselor, an extended family member or anyone else who can influence your parents to get you help with this.
FX does not know the nature of your relationship with your parents, but if you think it is a possibility it would be helpful for you to explain the affect their reactions to you are having on you and to express to them exactly what you need from them in terms of support. If you feel this conversation would be too difficult for you to have alone with your parents, then speak to your therapist about how this issue could be addressed.
If your parents have difficulty in being emotionally supportive, please remember that is a statement about who they are. It does not mean that all people are incapable of being emotionally supportive. It also doesn’t say anything negative about you and is not a statement about the kind of person you are.
FX hopes that you will reach out for help soon so that you are not so isolated in the feelings and situations you are currently dealing with. We know that with help things can definitely get better for you.
If you live in northern New Jersey and need help finding a therapist you can call the Access Center from Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888-247-1400. Outside of this area you can log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration website for referrals in your area. You can also contact your insurance company to get a list of in-network mental health providers or check with your school social worker or psychologist to get a list of referrals in your area.